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Re: Mom is making kids feel guilty for liking to be with dad PLEA...

From: A mom that is divorced and shares a chid, and a stepmom that deals with an ex wife also.
Date: 15 Nov 2002
Time: 07:03:36
Remote Name: 66.214.117.67

Comments

My husband and I have a his, her's and our's.It is extremly difficult at times. The advice I would give to you and your husband would be. Realize the first important thing you can not change their mother.She will continue this behavior over and over. So bottom line, no changing her and what she does to those girls. It's sad that she is so insecure and must make the children suffer. I personally think and believe dealing with the same situation on both ends, that you can never get the children involved. Never ask their oponion on adult issues, where they wanna go especially when you are dealing with a person that makes them feel guilty. If the court papers say thats what it is, then thats how it goes. She will have to deal with it, thats obviously what they agreed to or the judge ordered.Most of all just love the kids and don't bring the isssues up. They will see their mother for who she is and most of all in the end respect the two of you and how you handle it. Always supporting their feelings and never downing their mom for what she does.It's not an easy thing at all, in my situation my step daughter has been taught not to love me or our home. But I had to look at her and realize this was not her but was taught to her. She really loves me but is not able to say it to her mother. If she does her mom makes her feel guilty, but I learned one thing I do not deal with her mom. I just give her love when she is here and always support her mom even though she has taught so much evil and hatred to a 9 year old child now. I know in the end I will win because truth reveals itself and her daughter is already seeing what she is doing.And then I am a mom where my son goes to his father's every other weekened. And I love his wife my son's stepmom is the greatest she loves my son and thats what make me happy the most.So good luck but remember you can't change her and when it comes to what your suppose to get thenyou take it. Don't argue with her just this is what it is Bye. Those girls will love and respect you in the end!!!! God Bless you Family!!

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